To The Bride & Groom | Wedding Toasts

Wedding Planning


This is one of the most frequently asked questions I get! Here we go!
At the rehearsal dinner (where the bridal couple assembles their smaller, more intimate group of family and friends) it is proper for the host of the evening to go first (typically, father of the groom,) followed by the Maid or Matron of Honor, followed by any and all others who would like to offer a toast to the couple and/or their host. The wisdom in this aspect of etiquette is that this is the group of people who will attend the wedding who are closest to the bride/groom/their families. They want to hear the stories, they want to share their experiences with the couple. It's all about love and support.

The wedding reception is a completely different situation. This is a larger group which encompasses friends and acquaintances who have not been associated with the bride/groom/their families as long. Proper etiquette, again, all about kindness and consideration, dictates that the only mandatory toast of the evening come from the best man. He should be appropriate and brief! I am not sure which is more important and it does vary from best man to best man! Ha, ha! Optional, to follow would be the Father of the Bride. Outside of these two toasts it is not proper for any other toasting to occur at this event. Beyond proper etiquette is the consideration of avoiding cutting the "party" short by extracurricular toasting which is not interesting to many of the guests. To the Bride & Groom!

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